You are engaged. How exciting – congratulations! Show us the ring. But what to do if you don’t like your engagement ring? It can be hard to keep flashing it for every friend, colleague or just some randomer who wants to see it and show your excitement. You are not the only one and it’s a lot more common than you’d think. And here is what to do.
Try to Live With It for a While
Let’s agree if you don’t often wear fine jewellery, your engagement ring may feel strange on your finger for a while. Even those who choose their engagement ring cannot say for sure if they totally love it after all the hype dies down. Even if you initially don’t like your ring, try to wear it as much as possible. Try to style it with your other jewellery and stay with it for a couple of weeks. Things may change, you never know.
Be Honest But Kind
A strong marriage is based on honesty. It may seem difficult to tell your fiancé you don’t like the engagement ring he picked out for you, but being honest and confessing you are not comfortable with your ring is the only way. Never blame your partner that he probably misread your hints or should have known your style better. After all, an engagement ring is a gift and you should be rather gracious than bratty asking for it to be changed.
Be ready that your partner might be really hurt and disappointed. He may have put a lot of thought and time into choosing the ring for you. Besides, there may be reasons why he selected that specific design. Listen to him and explain that talking to him about it has been hard for you too.
It’s not an easy conversation to have, but if you are never going to be happy with your ring, it’s just necessary.
Never Feel Guilty
Never feel bad about rising the fact that you don’t like your engagement ring. It’s an expensive purchase and you should be happy to wear it. Of course, your partner’s feelings might be hurt initially, but in the end, if he wants you to be happy then you should have a ring you are excited about wearing.
Try to Compromise
After talking to your fiancé, there is a chance you will see the ring in a new light. He may have explained his choice of a certain stone, cut or setting that makes it more meaningful.
In case you are still thinking about changing it, just outline your reasons for wanting to do so. Try to make the change as inexpensive as possible, opt for a ring at a similar value. If he proposed you with a 2ct diamond ring, don’t opt for a 10ct one, it will never work.
What if It’s an Heirloom Ring
With an inherited ring, it’s a bit trickier. But again, honesty is the key. Try to explain that you feel a little pressed at the thought of looking after a family ring and you’d like a ring of your own that symbolizes your love story. Perhaps you can keep his family ring to wear on special occasions and have your own engagement ring for everyday wear as a compromise.